At the time of our birth our subconscious mind is clear and programable, just like a brand new computer. At birth we begin programming this perfect subconscious “mind computer” involuntarily with input from our parents, siblings, teachers, relatives, friends and others that influence us early in life. Our subconscious mind houses every thought, memory, situation and the feelings surrounding each of them from the time of our first breath. We live our lives fulfilling internal beliefs from subconscious programs whether we consciously want them or not. Beliefs like, “your weak”, “your going to grow up fat and unhealthy” “the world is not safe place”, “you’re a bad kid”, “your a loser”, “you will never make it in this world”.
Usually by the age of six these programs are embedded in our “mind computer” so we behave based on these beliefs systems. So if we have been programed that we are worthless, then we will act that way regardless of what our intellectual or common sense adult mind tells us.
Even if the conscious mind or our adult self is filled with positive, hopeful thoughts we operate from the subconscious mind 95% of the time. These habitual negative beliefs, which kick in through most of our life, become the default. They operate when we are sleeping, when we are working, pretty much all of the time. There is often a disconnect between our thinking / conscious mind and our feeling / subconscious mind.
This overwhelming power of the subconscious mind explains why positive thinking only get us so far. We read self-help books, attend workshops, make New Year’s resolutions etc. (and fail to improve our lives only to realize a year later that our life is no better.) Since the conscious mind is only functioning 5% of the time it has little power to overcome the weighty influence of the subconscious mind and the beliefs that have been programmed since childhood. To effect lasting changes in this embedded belief system, we must change not just at the level of the conscious mind but in the subconscious mind.
We do this by feeling the negative feelings in our body and use various techniques such as EFT, Direct Suggestion Hypnosis, Age Regression Hypnotherapy, Mindfulness, Relaxation and others. This helps us change our unwanted, false belief system and reprogram our subconscious mind to make positive, desirable changes in our life.
“A Child Learns” by Amanda Cater
If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice.
If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself.
If a child lives with acceptance, and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.